Some of the women who gravitate toward me tell me that they run into men who seem to be insecure about how much money they make relative to her.

The reason behind this is because, outside of him providing financial support, she doesn’t completely embrace all of the other areas in which a man can add value to her life.

In some instances, she may sense the other ways a man can bring value to her life but may not be able to clearly identify what exactly that value is.

She most likely equates masculine provision with financial support, and although it can include this, masculine provision also beautifully transcends this. Her emphasis is all on the money and thus she meets men who are focused on the money and who are often dis-empowered within the scope of money and providing.

She’ll likely run into men with all types of different dis-empowered stories surrounding money.

Here are just a few cases that women have shared with me:

1. His primary concern is whether he can provide for his partner financially, and he experiences feelings of insecurity if he perceives that his partner requires more than he can offer or outperforms him in that area.

2. He feels insecure with money his whole life and so when he meets her, he projects that onto her.

3. He’s on a kick of “equality” and tries to get her to pay for the date while making back handed “compliments” the entire night about how much she earns.

I could go on forever but I think you get the point.

If a woman wants to be provided for, yet, her only clear thought of what masculine provision is is financial, she’ll attract a wide range of men who only understand masculine provision from a financial standpoint. And she’ll often encounter all their insecurities surrounding it.

If a woman wants to stop attracting men like this, the solution is to actually create space within herself for the many areas of masculine provision. She must be able to clearly see, have open arms toward, and deeply appreciate all of the value the right man can bring into her life.

And, like I mentioned earlier, although a woman may sense the other ways a man can bring value to her life, if those other ways are not crystal clear to her, then it’s almost like they don’t exist. It remains some hazy concept that can never materialize in her reality. She must be clear on all of the value a man can bring into her life and be open enough to receive it.

Women underestimate the profound impact that shifting their perspective can have on their love life. By changing the way you view things and the premise in which you’re viewing it from, you can unlock a world of new possibilities and discover exactly what you've been searching for.

This particular situation is no exception.

If you desire to be with a man that you love deeply, that loves you deeply, and provides for you, you must change how you’re viewing masculine provision— as well as begin viewing masculine provision from a heart-centered lens.

I help my clients do this with a simple “His and Hers” roles exercise.

This is an aspect of the second step of my Refine and Express Method used to help my clients have a softer life, divine union with the man for them, (a man that you love deeply, that loves you deeply, and that provides for you), and a more feminine and fulfilling love life.

This exercise is comprised of getting clear on the type of love you desire to experience and identifying the masculine provision in all of these instances that your ideal man would provide for you.

Additionally, you must also identify the value YOU can bring to his life that inspires, appreciates, and/or embraces this masculine provision.

Here’s an example break down of what this may look like written out:

I desire a union where:

• I am able to openly and honestly communicate with him about my thoughts, feelings, and needs to ensure that there’s trust and understanding in the relationship

• I can be “off” at times and not have to worry that things are going to fall a part because he takes care of things

• I feel completely safe with him, emotionally and physically

• He lets me in and allows me to know him deeper (and vice versa)

• We spend lots of uninterrupted, quality time with each other

The next thing we want to do is look at the list and, one by one, break EACH point into two lists: his and her roles.

We check to see what role would the man have to play to make that specific desire a reality and more importantly, what role would YOU have to play to make that desire a reality.

When you are creating the ‘his’ list, it’s important that you are recognizing and identifying all of the masculine provision that is present.

As an example, let’s break down 1 point of desire mentioned earlier: I feel completely safe with him, emotionally and physically

We’d break this point of desire into the “his and hers” roles that would make this desire a reality, making sure to highlight the masculine provision that is present.

His roles:

• He prioritizes my safety and well being (masculine provision)

• He anticipates what I’ll need in a given situation to ensure my safety (masculine provision)

• When upset, he makes sure to calm down before engaging with me so that he gives me his best (masculine provision)

• He’s attentive to me and holds space for me to express myself (masculine provision)

Her roles:

• I am receptive to his provision (even when I feel upset)

• I fully trust him and respect his decisions

• I have a thankful heart, fully appreciate him, and I express my appreciation for him, to him

• I am supportive of him in all the ways he needs and wants

• I am empathetic and forgiving

Obviously, this list could go on for a while and is only limited by your lack of vision or capacity.

You can go as deep as you want with this exercise and I’d advise you to break down EACH point of desire into “his and hers” roles.

The idea here is to clearly understand the masculine provision you desire and be able to identify it.

When you have identified and embraced a clear idea of how a man can bring value to your life (within and outside of financial means) and how you can bring value to his, you can begin to create space within yourself to receive the many areas of masculine provision from a man.

This makes it more likely to attract men who are well-rounded and empowered in all the value they can add to the right woman’s life. It becomes a visceral image within you that you can see in your mind, feel within your body, and thus materialize into your life.

This puts you directly on the path of elevated union.

This is where you belong.

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