Disclaimer: The advice offered in this post assumes that you already feel destined for the love you desire most, and that you seek this love for the 'right' reasons—meaning, you're not attempting to escape yourself through a man or relying on him to resolve your deep-seated feelings of unworthiness. In such cases, the advice provided here may not be applicable until you address these issues first. I have blog posts that bring further awareness to the topic of ‘deep seated unworthiness’ and how it keeps you at a distance from the love you most want. You can read these posts here: https://dreamsilasomans.com/dlgwablog/c/unworthiness However, I do not assist women in developing faith that they CAN be loved in the manner they desire; they must already possess this faith within themselves. Additionally, I do not aid women in resolving deep-seated feelings of unworthiness, as these matters are beyond my scope.

Introduction

I received a question in my private group that read: What's the best advice you have for single moms when dating? I'm honestly about to just give up.

Dating can be challenging for anyone, but for single moms, it often feels like an insurmountable task. The added responsibilities and emotional weight can make the prospect of finding a meaningful connection seem daunting. If you're feeling like giving up on dating, you're not alone. Many single mothers share this sentiment, but there are ways to make the process more manageable and fruitful.

Why Giving Up Might Seem Tempting

When women express a desire to "give up" on dating, it's usually because they feel that it consumes a lot of energy and isn't yielding results. As a single mother, your time and energy are even more precious. However, there are ways in which you can navigate to make dating more efficient and less exhausting.

The Importance of Expressiveness

One of the most crucial elements for successful dating as a single mom is expressiveness. This means openly and properly communicating your feelings, needs, desires, and grievances related to your connection with a man and the date you're on. Observing his reactions to your expressions can help gauge alignment.

Proper expressiveness allows you to:

1. Reveal Your True Self: Share how he feels to you and let it flow like a dance, back and forth.

2. Avoid Misalignment: Quickly filter out men who aren't suitable for you.

3. Gauge Interest and Commitment: See how he responds to the real you and how he addresses your needs and desires.

The Mistake of Internalizing Emotions

Many women internalize their emotions and reactions, making mental notes of likes, dislikes, and red flags. This can prolong the dating process and leave you talking to a man who isn't truly suitable for you. Properly expressing yourself helps to quickly identify those who align with you and weed out those who don't.

The Case for Dating Multiple Men

Dating multiple men simultaneously can increase your chances of finding alignment. By expressing yourself and observing their responses, you can quickly identify an aligned man. He will attentively respond to your needs, desires, and grievances, offering solutions, feedback, and support, and he will actively pursue a deeper commitment with you.

Avoiding Emotional Fatigue

To avoid the fatigue of being emotionally invested in multiple men, refrain from attachment until commitment has been proposed and claimed. It's easier not to become attached to men who haven't claimed you when you reserve attachment-inducing activities for deeper commitments.

Conclusion

Dating as a single mom doesn't have to be an exhausting and fruitless endeavor. By being expressive and dating multiple men, you can efficiently find a man who is truly aligned with you. Remember, proper expressiveness filters out unsuitable men and highlights those who are a good fit for you.

In my 8 week email mentorship, “IRL: Better Than Fantasy”, proper expression one of the main skills that I teach to help feminine women (not yet married) who know they’re destined for great love work on in order to go from hoping for her turn to get lucky in love to being claimed, committed to, and and loved well now and in the future by the man she'll love.

We also work on:

1. Being self aware and knowing where you really are in relation to the love life you want so that you avoid feeling powerless and lost in love.

2. Knowing where and what your ongoing responsibilities are AT EVERY GIVEN MOMENT so that you empower yourself, avoid getting into positions where you feel powerless against a man, and are always expanding in your union with the man you'll love.

3. Learning to feel your emotions through and then use them as data to make decisions that lead to you being and feeling safe, secure, and loved now and in the long term.

4. How to choose men that make sense for who you are, what you want, and your overall well being now and in the future.

5. And if needed/desired, we cover actually meeting men who are aligned with you via online dating/offline mingling and dating.

This mentorship is $999.

DM me the word "IRL" here http://m.me/dreemsilas (Facebook Messenger) or (*here if you prefer chatting on Instagram*) if interested and we'll have a quick chat to see if it's a good fit. The qualification process is short, sweet, and simple.

I'll ask you just a few yes or no qualification questions and if it's a good fit, can get you enrolled whenever you're ready.

I look forward to chatting with you.