I wrote a similar post to this the other day that talked about how waiting anxiously for a man to text you is an indication that your feminine expression is “offline”...

However, there is a different diagnosis if you find yourself feeling a sense of extreme urgency to text or call a man back. The truth is that these are two separate issues though women often experience both at the same time. One is a feminine expression issue and the other is a feminine value issue.

Today I am talking about the latter.

In my experience working with clients, if a woman feels that sense of urgency to call/text a man back she usually also anxiously waits for him to text/call her as well.

That said, be sure to check out the other post if you want insight on how to solve that as well. Check it out here!

Okay, so let’s get into it.

You know that time when you’re seeing a man and the moment he texts you or you miss his call you feel like you MUST text or call him back immediately?

You actually feel a sense of urgency to do so even when he gets back to you on his own time.

If you are already a healed woman (meaning you’ve done the necessary inner-work), you most likely feel this sense of urgency because you simply haven’t gotten clear on your feminine value. And by “feminine value” I simply mean what makes you high quality.

Because you haven’t gotten clear on your feminine value, you on some level feel and are behaving like you can easily lose this man. You’re acting as if not getting back to him fast enough is going to somehow make him go bye-bye.

The truth is that this sense of urgency is not a good thing nor does it feel good.

It’s coming from a needy, worried place and not only can a man sense this but it actually distorts your experience with him. You’re not able to see things or feel things clearly which causes you to overthink, overreact, and be “passionate” in all the wrong ways.

In truth, you can be excited to hear from a man and still get back to him hours later (when you’re ready). Getting to this place is freeing as you are operating from an open, spacious place that allows true development of the relationship and enjoyment of each other without suffocating restrictions.

This is what I want to help you cultivate in this post; a sense of ease and equilibrium because you know how valuable you are and the ability to be super excited to hear from him yet still get back to him whenever the best time is for you.

So, I teach my clients (who are already high quality women) the fastest way to get clear on what they’re feminine value is is to simply make a short list of what they desire, break this list down into “his” and “hers” roles, and then check off the roles she already plays.

I’ve discussed this process in several other posts already because many of the issues that my clients face can be solved quite easily if she knew clearly the value she had and how that value directly complements what she desires to experience in her love life.

The reason why this method is so effective is because you're not fighting against your brain to prove that you are worthy.

I say this because the biggest issue I see in spaces that help women try to find their “worth” is that other methods simply tell women to repeat affirmations, keep on “healing”, or somehow just “feel into their worth” and blindly accept that they are worthy.

These methods can be helpful at times but they don’t do much for my clients who already say affirmations all day, everyday, are already healed, and who have also tried to just blindly accept that they are worthy.

The problem with these methods is that they don’t help quiet the brain enough. By this, I mean that on a consistent basis women will experience hundreds of thoughts a day that essentially tell them that they don’t deserve XYZ in regards to their love life.

And unless you are 100% certain about the value you have, you spend lots of time and energy fighting against your brain and negative thoughts.

My method completely eliminates the need to fight against your brain because you feed it certainty by being clear on your feminine value.

So let’s get into how to get clear on your feminine value so that you can rid yourself of this sense of urgency:

Step one: In 1 concise list, write down what your ideal love life looks like and feels like.

Example:

• I desire a union with great, elevated communication where we both really work to understand each other and have conversations that make us feel closer to one another

• I desire a man who loves to always take me on nice, thoughtful dates every week and really values that type of quality time with me.

• I desire…

• I desire…

• I desire…

Step two: Take each point from that list and break it down into 2 roles that would make that desire a reality. One set of roles will be played by the man and one played by you: his and her roles.

As an example, let's break down: I desire a union with great, elevated communication where we both really work to understand each other and have conversations that make us feel closer to one another

His roles could look something like:

• Practices attentiveness and active listening

• Conveys his points in a mature, controlled manner

• Solution oriented

And so your roles would look something like:

• Also practice attentiveness and active listening

• Conveys point in a healthy, felt-out manner

• Controls emotions and self soothes well

• Receptive to his solutions

• Forgiving

Step three: From there, you must make sure the roles make sense and could actually create the desired reality. It absolutely must make sense to you! You can do this by asking yourself: If he plays these parts and I play these parts, would/could this desire be a reality?

When everything looks good, examine the list of roles and begin to see which roles from the ‘hers’ list you actively play and which roles you do not.

As far as your love life is concerned, all the roles you play are your feminine value.

This is why you are high quality.

Once this is clear in your mind, you really begin to feel it and act like the valuable woman you are. And because your brain is on your side, you’re no longer self sabotaging and can instead be in complete alignment with yourself.

Oh yeah, and for the roles you do not play, you now have a clear roadmap of what you need to play and you can begin to play them. (In my mentorship, I help my clients through how they can play their roles.)

Being clear about the value you have, stops you from behaving like you will lose a man so easily. You begin to get back to him in the time that feels best for you because you’re coming from a relaxed, easeful state. You feel more free and can operate from that open, spacious and healthy place that allows you to thoroughly enjoy the man and for him to enjoy you while the relationship grows.

This is what I want for you! This is what I know you want for yourself.

Try out this method and let me know how it helps you. And of course, you can always work with me personally to get accelerated results.

In my 12 week mentorship, “woman in union”, identifying your feminine value and helping you feel deserving of elevated love is one of the main things that I help professional, feminine women work on in order to go from mediocre love to having the highest quality of love.

We also work on

• increasing your capacity for receiving and maintaining love, intimacy, and support

• attracting experiences with men that match your standards

• feminine expression and properly communicating your needs, desires, and standards

• resurrecting the passion and intimacy in your relationship

• and if needed/desired, we cover meeting men who are aligned with you via online dating/ organic dating and inspiring further commitment.

This mentorship is a mid 4 figure investment. [$5,555]

If you'd like more info on the mentorship [what it entails, the process, and the qualifications], click here!

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