I know how difficult it is to love a man deeply but secretly knowing that if you are to have the love life you really want, you have to let him go.

Having experienced this myself, it was one of the most challenging times in my life, but if I hadn’t properly let the other man go, I wouldn't have met the man I'm with now who has completely blown me away.

I remember it feeling nearly impossible to let the old guy go. I felt like I’d never experience anything better than that. And I know you may feel this exact way, as many of my clients do as well.

The reason why it feels like you won’t experience better and it feels impossible to let him go is because you’ve completely wrapped your identity around him.

What I mean by this is that you adopted the identity that he is the only one for you. You’ve made him mean everything. You’ve made your experiences with him mean that that's all there is for you. You’ve made your issues with him become issues with yourself, other men, or issues with love in general.

And you’ve reinforced this identity by replaying experiences you’ve had with him in your head. This all made you believe that he is the only one for you when in reality, that’s most likely not the case.

And if you’re reading this, in the back of your head you probably know he’s not the right one for you but a major part of you still believes that he may be the only one for you.

Well, it’s my job to help you let him go so that you can experience a more elevated type of love with someone God has chosen for you.

The only way to let the old guy go is to remove him from your feminine identity or from the story you keep telling yourself about your love life. You have to replace your story with something that reopens your heart and mind to new possibilities.

I help clients do this by first identifying what that flawed story is.

In this case, your story is simply “(Insert man’s name) is the only man for me.”

Having clarified your story, your next step is to start shifting it.

This is accomplished by simply replacing the old identity (story) with another that actually matches what you want, which in this case is a beautiful relationship and a new, amazing man.

So let's take our old story, “X is the only man for me” and turn it into a story that can support new love and experiences.

Our new story could look something like, “Love has been a beautiful experience for me in the past, and I am looking forward to even better in the future.”

The focus of this new story makes it perfect. Instead of downplaying the past, it emphasizes its beautiful aspects, while at the same time looking forward to the now and the future.

This new story eventually enables us to explore new opportunities, think differently, behave differently, and develop new habits.

If we want to see these changes, the story must resonate with us. So, it is important that we choose a story that actually clicks with us and is empowering for us.

You can be sure that a new story clicks when it feels freeing to you.

You can use your new story when you find yourself thinking, saying, or believing the old story. You essentially want to overwhelm your mind and the old story with the new story.

The last step is to begin collecting evidence to support this new story. In order to properly let go of the other guy from your identity, you have to feed your new story with evidence.

I mentioned earlier that one of the biggest reasons why you believe that X is the only guy for you is because you keep reinforcing the story by reminiscing about experiences you two have had in the past.

It just gives more fuel to the old story that X is the only one for you and makes it even more difficult to let him go.

So what you want to do is feed your new story with evidence to reinforce it and feed it so that you release the old story and believe the new one.

As an example, let’s keep working with the new story, “Love has been a beautiful experience for me in the past, and I am looking forward to even better in the future.”

At the end of each day you should look at all the evidence in your life, past or present, that affirms this new story.

1. Today I saw a couple holding hands and was reminded of that time I went to the park with [name] for the first time and he held my hand. That experience showed me that I really like holding hands and I can’t wait to experience more of that in my life.

2. Today a male coworker of mine decided to take me to lunch. It was unexpected and I had a really nice time with him. This experience showed me just how fast good things can happen to me.

3. This morning a coworker randomly complimented me and told me “Any guy would be lucky to have you.” I thought this was interesting and it really felt sweet and heartfelt.

4. Today I left my gloves at the coffee shop and a man ran two blocks in the cold to give it to me! This was very kind of him and I thought it was quite romantic.

5. I remember when I received a very sweet love letter a decade ago. I still remember what it said word for word; it meant a lot to me.

You’d do this exercise every day until you have so much evidence to back up your new identity that you start believing it by default.

This process is what will help you completely release the old guy and finally let you take a breath of relief.

It can be challenging to move on from an ex who you had envisioned a long-term future with, but by redirecting your focus and embracing a new story, you allow yourself to be open to the man who will love and be loved by you in the most profound and extraordinary way; the man who’ll blow you away.

If what you’ve read here resonates with you and you’d like to work with me further, consider my 12 week mentorship program.

In my 12 week mentorship, “woman in union”, feminine identity is one of the main things that I help professional, feminine women work on in order to go from mediocre love to having the highest quality of love.

We also work on

• increasing your capacity for receiving and maintaining love, intimacy, and support

• feminine expression and properly communicating your needs, desires, and standards

• attracting experiences with men that match your standards

• identifying your feminine value and helping you feel deserving of elevated love

• resurrecting the passion and intimacy in your relationship

• and if needed/desired, we cover meeting men who are aligned with you via online dating/ organic dating and inspiring further commitment

This mentorship is mid figure figure investment.

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