As a mentor for women in their relationships, I believe that a woman focusing on all the negative experiences in her love life is the biggest pitfall for her.

This is because it keeps her trapped in an energetic prison where she will continue to experience what she does not want to experience again, simply because she keeps focusing on it.

It is disheartening to see women mentors or coaches constantly feeding women their limitations, feeding them the story that they need so much healing, and feeding women the negative stories of low-value men or as I some times hear them called, "dusties." This approach has never helped women attract the man or union they desire.

In my work, we focus on what the woman desires to experience in her love life and the type of wonderful man that she wants to attract into her life. I firmly believe that wherever you put your attention is what rules your life.

This truth can be seen in my own life, my clients' lives, and in the lives of those around us. It is detrimental to constantly feed your mind with everything that you do not want to experience. It is a bad habit that must be broken.

Moreover, you must also remove your identity from these past negative experiences.

Many women attach their identity to the experiences they have had and hold on to it, making the experiences make up who they are.

The truth is that when you free yourself from identifying with your past experiences and the negative parts of your love life, you are unstoppable and can create the exact love life you are looking for.

At some point, you have to choose between your past or the present. I encourage all my clients to live for now and love for now. I firmly believe that breaking free from past negative experiences and negative identities is crucial in creating the love life you desire.

In this post, I aim to help you break free from negative past experiences and identities that may be holding you back in your love life.

The first step is identifying the identity you are currently operating from.

For example, if you have consistently experienced men lying to you and being stingy, you may be operating from the identity of "I always attract men who lie and don't treat me well."

This identity muddies your focus and causes you to focus on avoiding men like that, but it ultimately backfires and attracts more of those experiences into your life.

To break free from this negative identity, you must shift it to something that aligns with what you want to experience. For example, "I am a woman who attracts men who are honest, upfront, and treat me well."

This new identity allows you to operate in a more clear and aligned manner and opens your heart and mind to new experiences that reflect this new identity.

To ensure that this new identity sticks, it is important to feed it with evidence. This means examining your everyday life and noting any experiences that reflect this new identity. Ask yourself, "What has happened today, recently, or in the past that reflects men being honest, upfront, and treating me well?"

Collect any evidence that affirms this new identity and by doing so, you will slowly but surely begin to believe this new identity because you have so much evidence for it and your focus is on what you want to experience more of.

As a result, you will find that you begin to experience more of the qualities in men that you admire and desire, as well as having experiences with them that reflect this new story.

If what you’ve read in this post resonates with you, consider working with me in my 12 week mentorship program!

In my 12 week mentorship, “woman in union”, feminine identity is one of the main things that I help professional, feminine women work on in order to go from mediocre love to having the highest quality of love.

We also work on

• increasing your capacity for receiving and maintaining love, intimacy, and support

• feminine expression and properly communicating your needs, desires, and standards

• attracting experiences with men that match your standards

• identifying your feminine value and helping you feel deserving of elevated love

• resurrecting the passion and intimacy in your relationship

• and if needed/desired, we cover meeting men who are aligned with you via online dating/ organic dating and inspiring further commitment

This mentorship is a mid 4 figure investment.

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